Yaaaaassssssss! There is such a shortage of Clara and Rose fics out there, but I would be all over that. Link it to me if you ever do write it.
"There’s this issue you’re not allowed to discuss: that women are needy. Men can go for longer, more happily, without women. That’s the truth. We don’t, as little boys, play at being married - we try to avoid it for as long as possible. Meanwhile women are out there hunting for husbands."
-Steven Moffat [x]
I just want to frame that and hang it on the wall of every Moffat apologist, so they can wake up and look at that every morning.
As a woman who grew up in a household with a very 50’s style gender bias (dad was the boss and breadwinner while mom cooked and cleaned, I became an artist and my brother is an engineer), Moffat’s quote sounds very familiar. There are a lot of people—both men and women—who still believe this kind of thing. There are also men and women to whom it applies. It does not, however, apply to many others. It’s just a stereotype. That’s what all stereotypes are. All people have stereotypes, even when we try hard not to.
I can definitely say that moffat’s quote does not describe my college experience. It was always the guys hunting for a bride while the girls tried to study. (And I sure had more needy boyfriends than a girl could have the patience to deal with.) Things have changed.
I’m not apologizing for moffat, because I don’t care if he believes that. My dad does too. Lots of people do. So what? My life proves them wrong.
It annoys the heck out of me when moffat sexualizes Doctor Who in any way, just like it annoys the heck out of me when all of the people who hate moffat sexualize the show in fanfiction and art and whatever else. You’re all just as bad as eachother (grammar, forgive me). You’re all wonderful people too. That’s the creepy thing about people. Almost every one of us is amazingly loving and wonderful while still being kind of creepy and evil at the same time—and it’s a daily internal struggle to see which side wins out.
What it comes down to is that there’s no reason to hate someone for something they believe. You can disagree with them, maybe tell them you disagree with them if you happen to meet them, but spreading hate about them online or anywhere else just makes you a hateful person (and also means your nasty side just won, which is best avoided).
This was really just a mini-rant for me to figure out my own thoughts on the subject. Sorry about putting it on this post. I suppose you weren’t being hateful, exactly. That’s nice of you.
I hope anyone who reads this has a wonderful day. I’m going to go finish my coffee now.